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Parenting defiant behavior | Preventing behavior problems in ODD child

Parenting defiant behavior in ODD child can be frustrating. Smarter Parenting is here to help with ODD focused information.

ODD is basically defiant behavior where a child constantly fights you when when asked to follow instructions. Often just a simple ask can set a child off. All children struggle doing what their parent ask them at times, but for a child with ODD they struggle is consistent, difficult, isn’t age appropriate, and applies to almost every request.

Preventing behavior problems in ODD child is possible when parents use the behavior skill of Preventive Teaching. Preventive Teaching helps your child anticipate situations before they arise. By addressing situations before they happen you’re actually telling your child how you expect them to behave and what you expect them to do. This is done by practicing or Role-playing the situation that is a problem and the behavior you want.

Using Role-playing you show your son or daughter the behavior you want them to do. Then you have them practice the expected behavior until they are able to do it on their own without prompting from you. Practicing, or Role-playing, helps cement a new behavior in your child’s brain for when they are asked to do it in the future. Role-playing also creates a safe environment that gives children the confidence they can do what you ask.

Role-play when you and your child are in a calm, neutral state. When a child isn’t reacting they are more likely to actually follow instructions and adapt to the situation. Whenever your child does something correct in the Role-play, praise them by using Effective Praise. You can learn how to give Effective Praise on the Smarter Parenting website.

If you child doesn’t do the Role-play correctly, still praise him or her for what they did correctly and then make minor corrections before having them Role-play the situation again. Three is the minimum number of times you should Role-play a situation with your child.

Keep the Role-play fun. If either of you begin to lose your patience, it is ok to return to the Role-play at a later time. Encourage your child to Role-play by offering a reward when they are finished. Rewards do not need to be monetary or involve food. Things like staying up 15 minutes later, playing a game with mom or dad, or choosing a family activity can all be rewards.

Many parents find it helpful to prepare a child to do something by giving them prompts. Saying things like, “In 20 minutes I will ask you so and so and I need you to do it just like we practiced.”

A highly reactive child may forget that you’ve prompted them if the time frame is too long. For them, it would be better to say,” In 20 minutes you will need to do so and so just like we practiced. I will remind you in 5 minutes, and then at ten minutes, and then right again before you have to do it.”

Children react to situations they’re not expecting or anticipating so Preventive Teaching is a helpful parenting tool for preventing behavior problems in ODD kids as it removes the surprise and allows them to process the request ahead of time.

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3 Ways to Get Intrinsic Motivation – Jessica Lahey

Teacher, New York Times best-selling author and columnist Jessica Lahey is inspiring audiences with her rallying cry to allow children to experience failure as an integral part of becoming successful, resilient and self-reliant adults. Her breakthrough manifesto, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, has become essential reading for parents, educators and coaches and declared a “must-read” by magazines as varied as Working Mother, Fortune and Education Week. In schools around the world, The Gift of Failure is being deployed as a community read that sparks dialog and improves cultures. As a highly sought-after speaker, Jessica addresses “overparenting” with the helpful authority of a seasoned teacher and the empathetic, often humorous, personal perspective of a mom who has truly been there. Her engaging presentations simplify complex cognitive neuroscience and pedagogy, making the case that children learn and develop best when they are given autonomy, allowed to feel competent and valued for the content of their character rather than the letters on their report card. She also provides actionable recommendations to help parents (and the educators that work with them) reframe children’s temporary setbacks as beneficial steps toward lasting, longer-term success.

To book now: https://www.apbspeakers.com/speaker/jessica-lahey/

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Webinar: Coping Strategies for Anxious Kids: What Parents Need to Know

NIMH’s Dr. Erin Berman discusses anxiety in children and youth.

NIMH Contact information for those in the DC metro area…
To participate:
301-402-8225
or
301-496-6642

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Can She Brush Her Own Teeth? – Down Syndrome Questions & Answers || Parenting Down Syndrome

Can She Brush Her Own Teeth? – Down Syndrome Questions & Answers || Parenting Down Syndrome One of the Questions Asked by one of my viewers was: …

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Chore Charts, Reward Systems, Helping Kids Form Good Habits and Routines – Parenting Tips

This video is full of ideas of different systems you can use to motivate your kids and toddlers to get chores done, do homework or school, form new habits or get AM and PM routines established.

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“Pop” Behaviorism, Intrinsic Motivation, & Trauma

Stop the madness!

Motivation

Token economies, level systems, behavioral management plans, IEPs, Positive Behavioral Support, RTI, light systems, and the list goes on and on.

It seems like everywhere you look in the helping, parenting, criminal justice, or educational world you see systems of rewards and punishments designed to control and change behavior.

Unfortunately, many of these are designed by people without much understanding of behavioral science or neurobiology and often result in unintended consequences that do more harm than good.

In this episode, Matt and Curt examine the cost of many of these popular approaches, how they fail those with unresolved trauma, and how we can help those we serve to find their own internal motivation.

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What are Infant Distress Warning Signs?

See this amazing animation on infant distress warning signs and symptoms of breathing problems from Cook Children’s.

Babies don’t come with an operating manual. But don’t worry! Cook Children’s pediatricians can answer any question you have and then some. Visit our newborn center for answers covering pregnancy, parenthood and all things newborn. http://newborncenter.org

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Podcast #416: The Self-Driven Child | The Art of Manliness

Recent surveys have shown that anxiety and depression are up amongst school-aged children and teens. Parents and teachers are also reporting a decrease in motivation amongst young adults. My guests today argue that both issues stem from the same problem and can be solved with the same solution.

Their names are Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson. Bill’s a clinical neuropsychologist and Ned is a college test prep coach. In their book, The Self-Driven Child, they make the case that modern helicopter parenting and highly structured school schedules and after-school activities are part of the problem of increased anxiety and decreased motivation amongst young people. The solution is to start letting your kids make their own choices and experience the consequences of those choices — both the good and the bad. Today on the show, we discuss specific ways parents can let their kids make their own decisions and why this doesn’t mean you let your kids do whatever they want. With each tip, they explain the science of why it helps increase intrinsic motivation. Lots of great actionable advice. Even if you’re not a parent, you’ll find the advice on developing intrinsic motivation to actually be pretty helpful for grown-ups too.

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Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation – Jessica Lahey

Teacher, New York Times best-selling author and columnist Jessica Lahey is inspiring audiences with her rallying cry to allow children to experience failure as an integral part of becoming successful, resilient and self-reliant adults. Her breakthrough manifesto, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, has become essential reading for parents, educators and coaches and declared a “must-read” by magazines as varied as Working Mother, Fortune and Education Week. In schools around the world, The Gift of Failure is being deployed as a community read that sparks dialog and improves cultures. As a highly sought-after speaker, Jessica addresses “overparenting” with the helpful authority of a seasoned teacher and the empathetic, often humorous, personal perspective of a mom who has truly been there. Her engaging presentations simplify complex cognitive neuroscience and pedagogy, making the case that children learn and develop best when they are given autonomy, allowed to feel competent and valued for the content of their character rather than the letters on their report card. She also provides actionable recommendations to help parents (and the educators that work with them) reframe children’s temporary setbacks as beneficial steps toward lasting, longer-term success.

To book now: http://www.apbspeakers.com/speaker/jessica-lahey

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Clara – “Dealing with the Oppositional Teen”

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