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Chore Charts, Reward Systems, Helping Kids Form Good Habits and Routines – Parenting Tips

This video is full of ideas of different systems you can use to motivate your kids and toddlers to get chores done, do homework or school, form new habits or get AM and PM routines established.


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“Pop” Behaviorism, Intrinsic Motivation, & Trauma

Stop the madness!


Token economies, level systems, behavioral management plans, IEPs, Positive Behavioral Support, RTI, light systems, and the list goes on and on.

It seems like everywhere you look in the helping, parenting, criminal justice, or educational world you see systems of rewards and punishments designed to control and change behavior.

Unfortunately, many of these are designed by people without much understanding of behavioral science or neurobiology and often result in unintended consequences that do more harm than good.

In this episode, Matt and Curt examine the cost of many of these popular approaches, how they fail those with unresolved trauma, and how we can help those we serve to find their own internal motivation.

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Podcast #416: The Self-Driven Child | The Art of Manliness

Recent surveys have shown that anxiety and depression are up amongst school-aged children and teens. Parents and teachers are also reporting a decrease in motivation amongst young adults. My guests today argue that both issues stem from the same problem and can be solved with the same solution.

Their names are Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson. Bill’s a clinical neuropsychologist and Ned is a college test prep coach. In their book, The Self-Driven Child, they make the case that modern helicopter parenting and highly structured school schedules and after-school activities are part of the problem of increased anxiety and decreased motivation amongst young people. The solution is to start letting your kids make their own choices and experience the consequences of those choices — both the good and the bad. Today on the show, we discuss specific ways parents can let their kids make their own decisions and why this doesn’t mean you let your kids do whatever they want. With each tip, they explain the science of why it helps increase intrinsic motivation. Lots of great actionable advice. Even if you’re not a parent, you’ll find the advice on developing intrinsic motivation to actually be pretty helpful for grown-ups too.

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Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation – Jessica Lahey

Teacher, New York Times best-selling author and columnist Jessica Lahey is inspiring audiences with her rallying cry to allow children to experience failure as an integral part of becoming successful, resilient and self-reliant adults. Her breakthrough manifesto, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, has become essential reading for parents, educators and coaches and declared a “must-read” by magazines as varied as Working Mother, Fortune and Education Week. In schools around the world, The Gift of Failure is being deployed as a community read that sparks dialog and improves cultures. As a highly sought-after speaker, Jessica addresses “overparenting” with the helpful authority of a seasoned teacher and the empathetic, often humorous, personal perspective of a mom who has truly been there. Her engaging presentations simplify complex cognitive neuroscience and pedagogy, making the case that children learn and develop best when they are given autonomy, allowed to feel competent and valued for the content of their character rather than the letters on their report card. She also provides actionable recommendations to help parents (and the educators that work with them) reframe children’s temporary setbacks as beneficial steps toward lasting, longer-term success.

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Study aims to help kids who have ADHD with their learning

Researchers with AHS and the University of Calgary are working on a project that could one day ensure that children who are on ADHD medication are performing up to their academic potential.


Will Smith Gives Marriage And Parenting Advice

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Watch this if you want to motivate your child

There is a reason why some people are motivated or not. A lot of it has got to do with the way someone has been socialized all their lives. Pursuing gold stars instead of the intrinsic satisfaction of doing something is a surefire way for a disaster. Essentially, it comes down to the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. This has been thoroughly studied by the behaviorist Brian Skinner and self-determination theorists Ryan Deci and Richard Ryan. This podcast episode was taken from a working session with Karen Lai from Mentorhood.

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How to Motivate your Child? | Hansaji on Chanakya's Ways!

Convincing your child to do things they don’t want to do can be challenging many a times. But then as parents how do we improve their behaviour, and yet increase their knowledge.

On the occasion of Children’s Day, Smt. Hansaji shares her expert tips on cracking the code to inspire children in various simple yet unconventional ways.

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Creating Structure and Rules for Your Child: Charts & Graphs

A mother decides her son needs structure, but she doesn’t know how to do this for a 2-year-old. Watch as she discovers ways to create simple routines for her family.

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