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3 Ways to Get Intrinsic Motivation – Jessica Lahey

Teacher, New York Times best-selling author and columnist Jessica Lahey is inspiring audiences with her rallying cry to allow children to experience failure as an integral part of becoming successful, resilient and self-reliant adults. Her breakthrough manifesto, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, has become essential reading for parents, educators and coaches and declared a “must-read” by magazines as varied as Working Mother, Fortune and Education Week. In schools around the world, The Gift of Failure is being deployed as a community read that sparks dialog and improves cultures. As a highly sought-after speaker, Jessica addresses “overparenting” with the helpful authority of a seasoned teacher and the empathetic, often humorous, personal perspective of a mom who has truly been there. Her engaging presentations simplify complex cognitive neuroscience and pedagogy, making the case that children learn and develop best when they are given autonomy, allowed to feel competent and valued for the content of their character rather than the letters on their report card. She also provides actionable recommendations to help parents (and the educators that work with them) reframe children’s temporary setbacks as beneficial steps toward lasting, longer-term success.

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“Pop” Behaviorism, Intrinsic Motivation, & Trauma

Stop the madness!


Token economies, level systems, behavioral management plans, IEPs, Positive Behavioral Support, RTI, light systems, and the list goes on and on.

It seems like everywhere you look in the helping, parenting, criminal justice, or educational world you see systems of rewards and punishments designed to control and change behavior.

Unfortunately, many of these are designed by people without much understanding of behavioral science or neurobiology and often result in unintended consequences that do more harm than good.

In this episode, Matt and Curt examine the cost of many of these popular approaches, how they fail those with unresolved trauma, and how we can help those we serve to find their own internal motivation.

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Podcast #416: The Self-Driven Child | The Art of Manliness

Recent surveys have shown that anxiety and depression are up amongst school-aged children and teens. Parents and teachers are also reporting a decrease in motivation amongst young adults. My guests today argue that both issues stem from the same problem and can be solved with the same solution.

Their names are Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson. Bill’s a clinical neuropsychologist and Ned is a college test prep coach. In their book, The Self-Driven Child, they make the case that modern helicopter parenting and highly structured school schedules and after-school activities are part of the problem of increased anxiety and decreased motivation amongst young people. The solution is to start letting your kids make their own choices and experience the consequences of those choices — both the good and the bad. Today on the show, we discuss specific ways parents can let their kids make their own decisions and why this doesn’t mean you let your kids do whatever they want. With each tip, they explain the science of why it helps increase intrinsic motivation. Lots of great actionable advice. Even if you’re not a parent, you’ll find the advice on developing intrinsic motivation to actually be pretty helpful for grown-ups too.

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What is RIE parenting? – Respectful Parenting explained

What is RIE Parenting?

RIE stands for “Resources For Infant Educarers” and is often known as Respectful Parenting. RIE was brought to the U.S. by infant-development expert Magda Gerber in 1978.
Magda Gerber, born in Hungary, had previously worked closely with paediatrician dr. Emmi Pikler and from that experience she framed the RIE approach that refers to giving babies more independence, allowing their natural abilities to flourish with minimal intervention and respect.

RIE is a whole world of principals, concepts and approaches. Some we might resonate with straight away while others require a change of mindset and a bit of an effort to grasp to be able to apply in our daily life.

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If you would like to educate yourself further on this approach I highly recommend these books: ‘Your Self-Confident Baby’ & ‘Dear Parent: Caring for Infants with Respect’ – Magda Gerber,

‘No Bad Kids’ & ‘Elevating Child Care’ – Janet Lansbury (

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Focus on Intrinsic Motivation for Success – Nate Leslie

While hockey has long been his background, playing 4 years of Junior and & professional seasons across Europe, Nate Leslie is renowned for his passion for coaching and his West Coast Hockey Prep Camp.

Check out this trailer from Nate’s talk from the 2018 Youth Sports Summer Summit, hosted by For the Love of the Game! Nate joins us to talk about the integration between coaching and educating, as well as two of the four sources of motivation: Mastery and Service. Nate supports these two intrinsic motivations as being far more sustainable than ego-boosters and encourages kids to love the pure joy of improvement.

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Aaron Moritz – The Bribe Mentality: Neglecting and Derailing Intrinsic Motivation

“Punishment and reward proceed from basically the same psychological model, one that conceives of motivation as nothing more than the manipulation of behavior.” -Alfie Kohn

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Is Bribing Your Children For Good Behavior A Good Parenting Strategy?

A lot of parents do it — bribing your children with cash in exchange for good behavior. But is that an effective parenting strategy? CBS 2’s Cindy Hsu reports.

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How to have Peace at Home, with Parenting Coach Lindsey Braach

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How to motivate YOUR child

As parents, we want our children to have that inner spark that makes them want to tackle a challenge, to find satisfaction in solving a problem and to feel a great sense of pleasure from trying their best, preferably without dangling a carrot (or candy or an iTunes gift card) in front of them to keep them going. This intrinsic motivation cannot be forced, but it can be encouraged. Here are some strategies to help bring out the inner go-getter in your children.


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